Posts Tagged ‘don’t make me sing Kumbaya’

Outside of WoW, I’m a teacher (or at least I was when employed, and that’s the field where I’m seeking employment now). Being a teacher means dealing with a group of kids who are mostly strangers and have no real reason to get along, aside from the fact that doing so will make their goals – primarily those of achieving education and growth – easier to accomplish. In a group of 20 or more students, it’s natural that some will get along better than others, cliques will form, and not everyone is going to like everyone else, but still coming together to work as a team in spite of that is crucial.

Yeah, it sounds a lot like being in a guild. You’ve got a goal that you all want to accomplish, whether it be raiding, making your guild tag the most feared in PvP on your server, establishing an amazing and well-respected RP community, or anything else that your group desires. But if people are mucking it up with bitchy quibbles, senseless fights (if I ever hear “he touched me first!” from a kid again I think my head will fall off), and not coming together as a team, it’s just not going to happen.

My mom, who is also a teacher, tells her class at the beginning of the year that they are all brothers and sisters. They may not always get along, they might not like each other, but they are part of a family that needs to do their best to come together. By the end of the year, she always has a class that can work together and who encourage each other to do their best. If you disagree with someone, maybe it’s not always the best thing to do to tell them that their point of view is dumb. Just keep it to yourself, or at the very least, don’t come across abrasively when arguing. Remember that there are other people who don’t think just like you, and might not have the same priorities. Wiping a group because you don’t feel like waiting for everyone isn’t such a big deal to you? Well to me it is, and I don’t want to play with someone who disregards the feelings, time, and effort of others. Don’t like someone’s plans? Well don’t step on their toes and try to change them – go do something else that you want to do. Feeling excluded? Don’t complain about cliques – go out of your way to communicate with and integrate yourself into other groups. In all likelihood, no one’s going to tell you that you can’t sit at their table in the cafeteria. :P At the same time, you can respect that you can’t instantly be best friends with people who have known each other longer.

I know adult relationships are far more complex than a group of children working together in a classroom, but sometimes that’s exactly what it feels like! And it’s no wonder that I’m left thinking that sometimes working with a group of 7 year olds would be easier, because at that age you can at least enforce respect for your peers.

Sometimes I feel like I sound cheesy when I go off on my love everybody rants, but it seriously is not that difficult to just get along with people. It makes the whole experience so much smoother when you check your ego at the door and try to cooperate.


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